Hyper-parenting or Playful parents?

Ever wonder as a parent if we are doing to much or to little with our kids? I am of the school of thought whereby your child develops to their fullest when taught by mommy and daddy. I know that everything we do is teaching them; they eventually get to the age where they copy your actions, your words, your attitude, but what about actually teaching them?

Am I wrong if I pull out cards for the alphabet or colors, or shapes and try to teach her in that manner. Or is playing with these learning tools enough?

If my children mimic me, surely they would mimic what is being taught. Does this get them ahead or create moments of tension and stress for you and for them?

In this world where we watch documentaries on Hyper-parenting, it can make a parent wonder if you are doing to much or to little with your kids.

There are days when I rely on play for much of the day, and I see her learning from our interactions. Then there are days, when I pull out the cards and try to teach colors, numbers, letters etc.

We have fun together no matter what activity we are doing, but I do feel more stressed the days we have the cards out. I think perhaps it is a case of pushing myself to hard to be the perfect parent with the perfect child, versus the true need for my daughter to learn all of this before she is even in preschool.

I think I am a product of modern day society. Will I be that parent that negotiates an employment contract for my children when they are older? Absolutely not, but that doesn't stop me from wanting to protect them, school them, shape and mold them; keep them under my wing as long as I can.

Thank goodness I have the momstown moms who share the same worries and joys that I have. Its good to know you are never alone.